Winter self help

Overcoming Dental Fear with Hypnotherapy

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Does the thought of visiting your dentist fill you with dread, fear or anxiety? This is a highly common problem that many of us suffer without resolution throughout our lives. Some can manage it of course, but for those of us that can’t, then Hypnotherapy can be a very powerful way to manage your thoughts and feelings regarding the whole process and allow you to get the treatment you need with the least amount of stress.

Phobias in general can often be dismissed as a sort of weird thing; people can be phobic of just about anything. For those of us that suffer with a Phobia, can literally be in fear of their lives.

So why does this happen?

Well, the dictionary will define a phobia as something that is an irrational fear of an object or circumstance. However, fear can be perfectly rational. If we are confronted with a charging rhinoceros for example, it would be perfectly acceptable to be afraid. Our fight or flight response kicks in, so that we might save ourselves.

If our distant ancestors experienced a life-or-death situation, they needed a way to ensure their survival. Imagine if one of our ancestors is ambushed by a sabre-toothed tiger. If they escaped, they might associate the rustle of tall grasses with a fear response in future preparing the body for a fight or flight.

Unfortunately, this learned response can be inexact, meaning that as people we can’t afford for the exact circumstances of the first attack to happen, before we trigger the fear response, because that might be too late. So, we can continue to irrationally process the similar circumstances, such as rustling of tall grass.

The same can be true of visiting the dentist. Rationally we know we will be well looked after by a professional, but on an unconscious level our fight or flight response is being triggered.

Hypnotherapy can help here, because it can relax the mind to a state where we can alter the way the mind processes the association with a visit to the dentist. We can reduce the threat response. This is also true for other phobias, we just need to re inform the subconscious mind that it is ok, to reimagine a visit to the dentist without the trauma or stress.

Phobias are never necessary; they cause distress, drain energy and stop people living full lives. Nobody should have to live with them.

If this sounds like something that might help you, please get in touch and we can start the process of making the situation manageable for you.

Overcoming Anxiety: How Solutions Change Your Mindset

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It may seem an obvious notion that by finding solutions to our problems we would immediately start to relieve worry and anxiety that can build up in us over time. However, for many suffering with anxiety often all we can see are the problems, and the idea of finding a solution can sometimes seem insurmountable.

The important thing to be aware of here is that when we look to find a solution, however big or small, we switch to a more positive part of our brain, the pre-frontal cortex. This is the part that is unique to humans, and where we are at our best. It is very difficult to feel both stressed and anxious while be completely present in thinking of ways to make solutions.

Think about that for a moment!

We can be anxious one minute, think of a solution and then go back to feeling anxious, but what we can’t do is feel both at the same time. The more time we spent focusing on thinking of solutions, the more time we spend away from our anxious feelings. Then when we find a solution and apply it, we have achieved something that makes us feel good.

So, with this information we learn that it is sensible to dedicate some time each day to sit down, break down our problems and try and come up with a solution. We may know what we want to achieve ultimately, but what we don’t sometimes apply is the idea that when problems are too large, we may need several steps to break this down, and so part of the solution might be just a very small thing that leads to the ultimate resolution.

If you are having trouble with this process, Solution Focused Therapy or Counselling is a very useful modality in which you can start this process for yourself. Solution Focused Therapy uses a variety of techniques, tools and questions that help refocus the mind to help you step away from your problems. Over time and with practise this then becomes your new normal.

Sounds like you?

Reach out and take the first step on the journey to finding your resolution.

New year resolutions and the power of positivity

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Now that we have entered a new year in the light of the difficulties, we have all experienced over the course of the last year, so much hope is being placed on the importance of our health, personal relationships and mental health. This of course is the time we often re-evaluate our lives and challenge ourselves to be different and take a different course in the new year to the one that went before. It is an opportunity to wipe the slate lean and start again.

We draft our list, sometimes it’s a long list of hopes, and sometimes we come up with just one wish, be it giving up alcohol, start a fitness regime, making time to see more friends. At the core of all these new resolutions that we draft up, is the inner wish to want to make things different and better for ourselves. But for so many these resolutions last a few days, weeks if we are lucky. The trouble is we intellectually want the change, but often we don’t have the true desire to see it through.  This is the point where thinking in a positive way can make a world of difference to our success or failure in our pursuit of change.

If we look at why positive thinking is so important to everything we do, first we must understand the mind body connection.  If I were to describe to you a vivid description, while your eyes are closed, of holding a lemon, and getting you to imagine I that you were cutting up the lemon and putting a fresh slice into your mouth, and squeeze some lemon juice onto your tongue. I would be surprised if you didn’t find that your mouth would start to water even though the reality is that there is no lemon in sight. This because the primitive mind doesn’t know the difference between imagination and reality. What you tell your mind it starts to believe, and it has the ability and to trigger the chemical reactions it needs to ensure it is prepared to taste the sour lemon. The same is true for stress, or negative thinking. If we tell ourselves constantly things will go wrong or if we give our mind a reason for something to go wrong, the mind will look for ways to ensure that it will.

So, how does this relate to our resolutions? It’s quite simple, we need to not only tell our minds what we want, but we need to be positive that we will succeed.  if we tell our mind we are committed to the change we want to see, and really imagine this deeply with as much detail as possible, we can build and grow the desire to see out this change. The more we re-enforce what we want and infuse it with positivity we tell the part of our mind that runs the old negative patterns that hold us back that our new path is our what we truly desire. We literally grow new cells in our brain that wire a new pattern. The more we stick with the pattern with desire determination and positivity, the more likely the change will stick for the long term.

As a hypnotherapist, my role is to support the conscious will of the intellectual mind to convince the subconscious mind that any change is worth making. Trance simply stops opens up the barrier that prevents an alliance between the two and facilitates a strengthening of will to take the direction that the intellectual mind wants, reprogramming negative beliefs that are held at a subconscious level and creating new positive beliefs that represents the solutions you want to see.

Whether you have stuck with your resolutions, or you are needing help, I hope positivity can be the key to your overall success.

Best Wishes.

Craig

Coping with Covid-19 during Winter – Self Help Strategies

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These past months have been a great challenge for all us. We have had to cope with the loss of many of the things we have previously taken for granted. The company of others being a major one, and that is not with-standing the fear that the word Covid-19 strikes in many of us, in relation to our own health, or those of ones we love.

I myself have at times found my mind wandering into the realms of fear, placing my mind into the what ifs, and what might never happen mode. By returning to the present moment, and filling it with positive things, it allows me to centre myself. The following list of things, has empowered me to regain control, feel happier and able to bring balance to my own situation and I hope it can work for you too.

Regular Exercise

With the likes of Joe Wicks and Major Tom Moore, there has been plenty of inspiration to keep us moving over the summer months, both of these amazing individuals have shown that with positive thoughts and positive actions incredible things can be achieved, but as we enter Winter, and whilst we all cannot achieve the recognition those gentleman have, it shows us that things can be it still be achieved by people of all ages and that regular exercise remains as important as ever. We all know that physical activity is a great way of keeping our bodies healthy, but what is often forgotten or neglected is the importance it has on our Mental Health, keeping active helps us produce Serotonin, along with other feel good chemicals, that keep us calm and balanced and feeling braver and more in control.

Routine

By keeping a routine, we keep a purpose and motivation to carry on day to day. By having a routine, it informs our brain of our intentions, and if our intentions are positive, this allows us to feel positive.

Talking to others

Find a way to talk to those you love, this can be over the phone, Zoom calls, or maybe even writing to someone you love. (Look for the positives, think in a positive way).

Make laughter a way to be

Why not put on your favourite comedy shows and sit and enjoy and laugh. Laughing this helps boost our mood as well as helping us to relax.

Help others (interact in a positive way)

Helping others is known to give us a warm sense of purpose and helps us produce and release feel good chemicals in our brains. So not only do we feel good for doing something for someone else, that someone else gets to benefit too.

Appreciate what you do have (Gratitude)

This may seem and obvious thing to do, but so many of us can get caught up in focusing on what don’t have or what we appear we have lost, we forget to take the time in our daily routine to stop and reflect on what it is we do have, and to give thanks for this. Once again by thinking in a positive way we retrain our brain over time to look for all the things in life that are good for us. Our brains operate in a happier and more fulfilled and purposeful way when we train ourselves to give thanks, be it big or small, it all counts.

Meditation practises

If we try to keep our minds in the present moment, it can help our minds from wandering off into a cycle of negative thinking. Negative thoughts are heard by our subconscious mind, and it is here where we produce the wide variety of chemicals in our brains. If we think negative, we trigger the reactions that can lead to depression or anxiety, so it makes sense to try to avoid this way of thinking if possible.

Ways we can do this include;

  • Exercise
  • Reading
  • Gardening and or connecting with nature
  • Playing a Musical Instrument
  • Sitting quietly, focusing on you something you enjoy and holding that thought for as long as you can.
  • Listening to relaxing music, or a Hypnotherapy relaxation track.

Learn Something new

Use the lockdown time to learn something new, or revisit something you have loved doing in the past but not had the time.

Most of all try to enjoy the Yuletide and Christmas period as much as you can, it’s a great time for appreciating life, and reflecting on what we would like life to look like in the future.

From all at Illuminating Minds have a very Happy and Healthy Christmas and a Wonderful New Year