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Feeling Overwhelmed This Autumn? Find a Calmer Way Forward with Solution Focused Hypnotherapy

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As autumn arrives and the days grow shorter, life can sometimes feel a little more demanding. The summer holidays are behind us, routines change, and the busy months leading towards Christmas begin to appear on the horizon.

For some of us, this can be a time to reflect and reset. For others, it can bring a familiar sense of pressure, anxiety or feeling overwhelmed.

Perhaps you’ve noticed that your mind rarely switches off. You find yourself worrying about things you cannot control, replaying conversations, or thinking about everything you still need to do. You might feel tired but struggle to relax, or find that even when you have time for yourself, your mind continues to race.

If this sounds familiar, you are not alone. And importantly, you don’t have to wait until things become unbearable before doing something about it.

I’m Craig, a Counsellor and Solution Focused Hypnotherapist at Illuminating Minds, based in the beautiful Purbeck area of Dorset. I work with people who want to feel calmer, more confident and better equipped to manage life’s challenges.

My approach is centred on helping you discover a way forward, rather than allowing today’s difficulties to define tomorrow.

Why Does My Mind Feel So Busy?

Our brains are designed to help us survive. When life feels stressful, we can become more focused on potential problems, what might go wrong and the things we feel we need to put right.

Although this response can be useful when we face a genuine challenge, it can become exhausting when our minds remain in a state of alert.

We may find ourselves worrying about the future, dwelling on the past or struggling to appreciate the present moment. Sleep can become more difficult, patience can wear thin, and even everyday decisions can feel overwhelming.

Sometimes, the more we try to force ourselves to stop worrying, the more attention we give to the very thoughts we want to escape.

Understanding why this happens can be an important first step towards doing things differently.

What Is Solution Focused Hypnotherapy?

Solution Focused Hypnotherapy combines therapeutic conversation with guided hypnosis and relaxation. It draws on an understanding of the brain, our patterns of thinking and the way we respond to stress.

Rather than spending all our time examining what is wrong, we acknowledge the difficulties you are experiencing and explore what you would like life to look like instead.

Perhaps you would like to wake up feeling more refreshed, approach situations with greater confidence, or enjoy time with family without constantly thinking about your responsibilities.

These may seem like simple hopes, but they give us somewhere meaningful to begin.

During our sessions, we explore your preferred future, recognise the strengths and resources you already have, and identify small, realistic steps that may help you move towards your goals.

You don’t need to arrive knowing exactly what you want to change. We can work that out together.

Trance: A Mini Holiday for the Mind

Our days can be busy. Our minds can be even busier.

We spend so much of our time thinking, planning, remembering, worrying and preparing for what comes next that we can forget what it feels like to simply pause.

This is one of the things I value most about trance in hypnotherapy.

Trance is a time when the mind can rest from worry. It offers a special and important moment in an otherwise busy day — an opportunity to detach from our everyday concerns and allow ourselves some breathing space.

This is why I describe hypnotherapy as a mini holiday for the mind.

Think about what a holiday gives you. It offers a break from your usual routine, a chance to step away from everyday demands and an opportunity to return feeling refreshed. In a similar way, time spent in trance can offer a welcome change of focus, allowing you to settle into guided relaxation without needing to solve every problem or answer every question.

You don’t have to earn this time, and you don’t have to wait until everything in your life is sorted out before you allow yourself to enjoy it.

During a hypnotherapy session, you are given the opportunity to pause, relax and turn your attention away from the constant demands of the day. You remain in control, and there is no need to try to force your mind to become completely quiet.

People experience trance in different ways. For some, it feels deeply relaxing; for others, it may simply be a quieter moment in which their attention is gently guided away from everyday concerns.

Sometimes, simply allowing yourself this space can feel like a valuable change from the usual pattern of thinking and worrying.

And perhaps that is an important place to begin: recognising that, alongside all the things you need to do, there is also value in taking a little time for yourself.

At Illuminating Minds, I believe that relaxation is something worth nurturing, just like any relationship of value.

So, when life feels busy and your mind feels full, consider giving yourself permission to pause.

Enjoy the journey, let the destination come to you, and allow yourself to enjoy your own mini holiday for the mind.

How Can Hypnotherapy Help You Feel Calmer?

People seek support for many different reasons. At Illuminating Minds, I work with people experiencing difficulties such as anxiety, stress, sleep problems, phobias and low confidence.

Anxiety and overthinking

If your mind constantly jumps to the worst-case scenario, it can be difficult to feel at ease. Our work explores ways to understand your responses, build helpful thinking habits and develop greater confidence in managing everyday situations.

Stress and feeling overwhelmed

When everything seems to demand your attention, finding space to think clearly can be challenging. A solution-focused approach helps you identify what matters most, recognise what is within your control and work towards a more manageable way of living.

Sleep difficulties

If you feel exhausted but struggle to switch off at bedtime, relaxation and hypnotherapy may form part of an approach to improving your sleep. We can explore the habits and thought patterns surrounding bedtime and work towards a calmer relationship with rest.

Confidence and self-esteem

Perhaps you spend too much time doubting yourself or worrying about what other people think. We can explore your existing strengths and identify ways to approach situations with greater self-belief.

Every person is different, and no particular outcome can be guaranteed. Our work is shaped around you, your circumstances and the changes you want to make.

A Different Way to Approach Autumn

What if, instead of viewing the coming months as another series of demands to get through, you used this time to consider what you would like more of in your life?

Perhaps you want to feel less anxious. Maybe you would like to sleep better, enjoy your free time more fully or approach a particular challenge with renewed confidence.

You don’t have to transform everything overnight.

You might begin by asking yourself three simple questions:

  • What would I notice first if life started to feel a little easier?
  • What is already going well, even if only in a small way?
  • What is one achievable step I could take this week towards the future I want?

There are no right or wrong answers. The purpose is to begin shifting your attention towards possibilities, however small they might initially seem.

You may not be able to change every circumstance around you, but you can begin exploring new ways of responding to life’s challenges.

How I Can Help at Illuminating Minds

As a Counsellor and Solution Focused Hypnotherapist, I aim to offer a supportive, non-judgemental space where you can talk openly about what is happening in your life and explore what you would like to change.

I work with clients in Swanage and Wareham, across the wider Dorset area, and offer online sessions and home visits where appropriate.

If you have never experienced hypnotherapy before, it is completely natural to have questions. You don’t need to know what to expect or have everything figured out before making contact.

An initial consultation gives us an opportunity to discuss your circumstances, answer your questions and explore whether my approach is suitable for you.

You deserve to feel listened to, understood and supported as you work towards a future that feels better for you.

Ready to Take the First Step?

If anxiety, stress, overthinking or sleep difficulties are affecting your everyday life, perhaps this autumn is an opportunity to do something for yourself.

You don’t have to wait for the perfect moment, and you don’t have to work everything out alone.

Contact Illuminating Minds to arrange your initial consultation and discover whether Solution Focused Hypnotherapy could help you move towards a calmer, more confident future.

Visit illuminatingminds.co.uk to find out more and get in touch.

Your next chapter doesn’t have to look like your last. Sometimes, the first step towards change is simply giving yourself permission to imagine what could be different.

Your First Solution Focused Hypnotherapy Session Explained

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If you’re considering Solution Focused Hypnotherapy for the first time, it’s completely normal to feel a little unsure about what to expect.

You might be wondering:

Will I actually be hypnotised? Will I lose control? What will I have to talk about? What if I can’t relax?

At Illuminating Minds, I understand that taking the first step towards therapy can feel like a big decision. As the sole therapist, I offer a personal, one-to-one approach where we can take the time to understand what you’re experiencing and, most importantly, where you would like to get to.

My aim is to make your first session feel comfortable, relaxed and reassuring, without any pressure or judgement.

Here’s what you can expect.

What is Solution Focused Hypnotherapy?

Solution Focused Hypnotherapy combines solution-focused talking therapy with hypnosis.

Rather than spending a lot of time analysing everything that has happened in the past, we focus on where you are now and where you want to be.

Together, we’ll explore what you’d like to change and what life could look like if the difficulties you’re experiencing were no longer getting in the way.

This might be feeling calmer, sleeping better, becoming more confident, managing anxiety or simply feeling more like yourself again.

Your first session is about you

At Illuminating Minds, I don’t believe that therapy should feel like a one-size-fits-all process.

Your first session gives us the opportunity to talk about what’s brought you to hypnotherapy and what you would like to achieve.

You might already know exactly what you want to change, or you might simply know that something needs to change.

That’s okay.

You don’t need to arrive with everything figured out. I’ll guide you through the process and we can work together to identify what you’d like your future to look like.

We’ll talk about your preferred future

One of the things I love about Solution Focused Hypnotherapy is that we don’t have to spend the entire session focusing on what’s going wrong.

Instead, I may ask questions such as:

“If you woke up tomorrow and things were better, what would you notice?”

Or:

“What would you be doing differently if anxiety wasn’t holding you back?”

These questions can help us identify the small but meaningful changes that could make a difference to your everyday life.

Sometimes the answers can be surprisingly simple.

I’ll explain how your brain works

As part of your first session, I’ll explain some of the ways your brain responds to stress, anxiety and perceived threat.

Understanding what’s happening in your brain can be incredibly reassuring.

For example, if you experience overthinking, anxiety or difficulty switching off, you may have wondered why your mind seems to keep returning to the same thoughts.

Learning about these patterns can help you understand that you’re not “broken” and that there are things you can do to influence how you respond.

I want you to leave your first session feeling that you understand yourself a little better and have some hope about what is possible.

Then we’ll experience hypnosis

After our conversation, I’ll guide you through a relaxing hypnosis session.

You’ll be sitting comfortably while I guide your attention using a calm voice and carefully chosen suggestions.

You don’t have to make anything happen.

There’s no test to pass and no particular sensation you’re supposed to experience.

Some people feel deeply relaxed, while others describe the experience as similar to daydreaming or becoming completely absorbed in a thought, image or feeling.

Everyone is different.

Will I lose control?

No.

This is one of the most common questions I hear from people who have never experienced hypnotherapy.

Solution Focused Hypnotherapy isn’t like the hypnosis you may have seen on television or in stage shows.

You remain aware and in control throughout the session.

You won’t be made to say anything you don’t want to say, and you won’t be asked to do anything against your wishes.

My role is to guide you into a relaxed and focused state while you remain completely in control of yourself.

What if I can’t relax?

Don’t worry!

You don’t need to be naturally good at relaxing, and you don’t need to have any previous experience of meditation or hypnosis.

If your mind wanders, that’s completely normal.

You might suddenly think about work, your children, dinner or something you need to remember later.

That’s okay.

I’ll guide you through the process, and there’s no expectation that you have to achieve a particular state of relaxation.

What happens after the hypnosis?

Once the hypnosis part of the session is complete, I’ll gently bring you back to your normal level of awareness.

We’ll have an opportunity to talk about how you found the experience and answer any questions you may have.

Depending on your individual goals, I may also suggest something simple that you can practise between sessions.

This is an important part of the Solution Focused approach. The aim isn’t simply to make you feel better while you’re sitting in my therapy room; it’s about helping you develop skills and awareness that you can take into everyday life.

How long is the first session?

Your first session may be longer than subsequent sessions because we need time to get to know each other, discuss what you’d like help with and explain how Solution Focused Hypnotherapy works.

I’ll always explain the structure and cost of your appointment before we begin, so you know what to expect.

What if I’m nervous?

If you’re feeling nervous, you’re certainly not alone.

Walking into a therapy session for the first time can feel daunting, particularly if you’ve never spoken to a therapist before.

At Illuminating Minds, I want you to feel that you can be yourself.

There’s no judgement, no expectation that you have to have the “right” answers and no pressure to share anything you’re not comfortable discussing.

As an independent therapist, I offer a personal and confidential space where we can work together at a pace that feels appropriate for you.

What can Solution Focused Hypnotherapy help with?

People come to me at Illuminating Minds for many different reasons.

This can include:

– Anxiety and excessive worrying
– Stress and overwhelm
– Low confidence and self-esteem
– Sleep difficulties
– Fears and phobias
– Overthinking
– Confidence around work or public speaking
– Unhelpful habits and behaviours
– Feeling stuck or lacking motivation
– Managing life’s changes and challenges

Everyone’s circumstances are different, so we’ll always start by understanding you, rather than simply treating a label or diagnosis.

You don’t need to have everything figured out

Perhaps you’ve been thinking about trying hypnotherapy for a while but haven’t been sure whether it’s right for you.

You don’t need to know exactly what you need before getting in touch.

Sometimes the first step is simply having a conversation.

I’ll answer your questions, explain how Solution Focused Hypnotherapy works and help you decide whether it feels like the right approach for you.

There is no pressure to commit to anything you’re not comfortable with.

Your first step towards a different future

Starting therapy can feel like a big step, but it can also be the beginning of something positive.

At Illuminating Minds, my approach is about helping you look forward rather than feeling defined by what’s happened in the past.

Through our sessions, we’ll focus on the changes you want to make, recognise the strengths you already have and work towards creating a future that feels more manageable, positive and fulfilling.

You don’t have to change everything at once. Sometimes the first step is simply deciding that you’d like things to be different.

Ready to take the first step?

If you’re considering Solution Focused Hypnotherapy and would like to find out whether it could help you, I’d be happy to have a conversation with you.

Contact Illuminating Minds today to arrange an initial consultation.

Let’s explore what you’d like to change and how we can work towards a brighter future, together.

Why a positive mindset can bring a feeling of joy

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As a solution focused hypnotherapist one the most important element of this role is to help educate those that come to me for help, on why the brain works the way that it does and what we can do to help ourselves.

From the outset, I explain that how we think is a lot of the time how we end up feeling. The reason for this is that within our brains, we have the chemistry to produce feel good chemicals or feel bad chemicals. Obviously, it isn’t just as simple as this otherwise we would all be thinking happy thoughts, then feeling joy in our lives. But most of us can give ourselves a few moments to sit and reflect on a happy memory and notice that the memory gives us a joyful more positive feeling.
For many, Christmas can be a happy place and space, as many memories of a joyful childhood are recreated every year in a bubble of goodwill and kindness. But equally for some it can represent overwhelm, too much to do or sadly for some, memories associated that are not so kind. But either way, we can see that how we think about something affects us. This is where Hypnotherapy comes in, as it offers someone a chance to identify a negative thought, and its associated negative feeling and look to reframe this. When we change this thought to how you want to think and feel, we thereby replace the negative feelings with something more positive.

I liken the process to walking into bar and choosing whether to order from the spirit optics a glass of joy chemicals or going to the other end and ordering a glass of feeling miserable. When you can take a step back and see what thoughts are doing the ordering, you then get to choose what you would like to feel.

So, if you are struggling to feel joy in your life, why not try Hypnotherapy and see if the process can work for you and change how you feel.

Manage Exam Stress with Hypnotherapy

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Once again it is that time of year. With University final exams and dissertations, not to mention A-levels and GCSES’s, it can soon become an overwhelming experience for many. The pressure to succeed can result in lost sleep, anxiety, anger, depression or sometimes all of these.

Hypnotherapy has emerged as a powerful tool that can help manage the heightened levels of stress. It can give the mind a holiday from the worries of it all, while at the same time helping the mind process all the information that is needed to best perform at your best. It takes us from our protective stressed out primitive mind and guides us towards a place where the mind no longer senses danger, our intellectual mind and we can relax and recover. It is from here where we come up with our best work, our best performances and our happy place. The more we can practise being relaxed, which hypnotherapy provides, the more we reduce worries, reduce stress hormones and allow ourselves to become our best.

Hypnotherapy is however more than just a tool for relaxation. It provides each individual with a tailored program and voyage of self discovery, arming you with information and directions that help unlock issues that are causing the problem in the first place. The visualisation techniques, used in hypnotherapy, can allow students to mentally rehearse the exam environment, giving time to prepare by imagining positive thoughts and positive outcomes. Visualising yourself in the exam room, sitting at your desk and everything goes well.

If this sounds like something you or someone you know would benefit from, please contact Illuminating Minds on 07725878880 or via our website.

Overcoming Anxiety: How Solutions Change Your Mindset

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It may seem an obvious notion that by finding solutions to our problems we would immediately start to relieve worry and anxiety that can build up in us over time. However, for many suffering with anxiety often all we can see are the problems, and the idea of finding a solution can sometimes seem insurmountable.

The important thing to be aware of here is that when we look to find a solution, however big or small, we switch to a more positive part of our brain, the pre-frontal cortex. This is the part that is unique to humans, and where we are at our best. It is very difficult to feel both stressed and anxious while be completely present in thinking of ways to make solutions.

Think about that for a moment!

We can be anxious one minute, think of a solution and then go back to feeling anxious, but what we can’t do is feel both at the same time. The more time we spent focusing on thinking of solutions, the more time we spend away from our anxious feelings. Then when we find a solution and apply it, we have achieved something that makes us feel good.

So, with this information we learn that it is sensible to dedicate some time each day to sit down, break down our problems and try and come up with a solution. We may know what we want to achieve ultimately, but what we don’t sometimes apply is the idea that when problems are too large, we may need several steps to break this down, and so part of the solution might be just a very small thing that leads to the ultimate resolution.

If you are having trouble with this process, Solution Focused Therapy or Counselling is a very useful modality in which you can start this process for yourself. Solution Focused Therapy uses a variety of techniques, tools and questions that help refocus the mind to help you step away from your problems. Over time and with practise this then becomes your new normal.

Sounds like you?

Reach out and take the first step on the journey to finding your resolution.

New year resolutions and the power of positivity

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Now that we have entered a new year in the light of the difficulties, we have all experienced over the course of the last year, so much hope is being placed on the importance of our health, personal relationships and mental health. This of course is the time we often re-evaluate our lives and challenge ourselves to be different and take a different course in the new year to the one that went before. It is an opportunity to wipe the slate lean and start again.

We draft our list, sometimes it’s a long list of hopes, and sometimes we come up with just one wish, be it giving up alcohol, start a fitness regime, making time to see more friends. At the core of all these new resolutions that we draft up, is the inner wish to want to make things different and better for ourselves. But for so many these resolutions last a few days, weeks if we are lucky. The trouble is we intellectually want the change, but often we don’t have the true desire to see it through.  This is the point where thinking in a positive way can make a world of difference to our success or failure in our pursuit of change.

If we look at why positive thinking is so important to everything we do, first we must understand the mind body connection.  If I were to describe to you a vivid description, while your eyes are closed, of holding a lemon, and getting you to imagine I that you were cutting up the lemon and putting a fresh slice into your mouth, and squeeze some lemon juice onto your tongue. I would be surprised if you didn’t find that your mouth would start to water even though the reality is that there is no lemon in sight. This because the primitive mind doesn’t know the difference between imagination and reality. What you tell your mind it starts to believe, and it has the ability and to trigger the chemical reactions it needs to ensure it is prepared to taste the sour lemon. The same is true for stress, or negative thinking. If we tell ourselves constantly things will go wrong or if we give our mind a reason for something to go wrong, the mind will look for ways to ensure that it will.

So, how does this relate to our resolutions? It’s quite simple, we need to not only tell our minds what we want, but we need to be positive that we will succeed.  if we tell our mind we are committed to the change we want to see, and really imagine this deeply with as much detail as possible, we can build and grow the desire to see out this change. The more we re-enforce what we want and infuse it with positivity we tell the part of our mind that runs the old negative patterns that hold us back that our new path is our what we truly desire. We literally grow new cells in our brain that wire a new pattern. The more we stick with the pattern with desire determination and positivity, the more likely the change will stick for the long term.

As a hypnotherapist, my role is to support the conscious will of the intellectual mind to convince the subconscious mind that any change is worth making. Trance simply stops opens up the barrier that prevents an alliance between the two and facilitates a strengthening of will to take the direction that the intellectual mind wants, reprogramming negative beliefs that are held at a subconscious level and creating new positive beliefs that represents the solutions you want to see.

Whether you have stuck with your resolutions, or you are needing help, I hope positivity can be the key to your overall success.

Best Wishes.

Craig

How to combat Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

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What is Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)?

SAD or Seasonal affective disorder is considered a type of depression that is experienced in relation to the change in seasons.

It is a type of depression most commonly associated with a lack of sunlight during the winter months. However, in some people they can feel depressed in the summer months and feel better in winter.

It is suggested that SAD is caused or triggered by the lack of sunlight received by the eyes, which causes the hypothalamus, the part of our brains that is responsible for our bodily chemistry, to change its chemical balance.

Melatonin is the hormone that is produced that makes us feel sleepy.

Serotonin is the hormone responsible for our mood, appetite control and sleep. When the level of serotonin drops it is believed that it can cause symptoms of depression.

Circadian Rhythm (Internal Body clock)

We know that light regulates our sleep patterns. When we receive less light, it may naturally encourage us to sleep more. This in turn may trigger the symptoms of SAD.

Some of the symptoms of SAD include the following;

  • Low mood that persists
  • A lack of interest in normal daily activities or an absence of pleasure in such activities.
  • Irritability
  • Despair, guilt and worthlessness are common feelings
  • Lethargy and wanting to sleep during the day
  • Sleeping for longer periods than is usual.
  • Craving carbohydrates and often gaining weight.

Treatments for SAD

The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) recommends that SAD should be treated in the same way as other types of depression.

There are a variety of ways in which SAD can be treated;

Light Therapy

For some people SAD can be successfully treated with the use of Light therapy, which can help some peoples’ mood improve quite noticeably. Light therapy involves the use of a Lamp specifically designed for the treatment of SAD, called a light box. Some people with SAD find that light therapy can help improve their mood considerably. It becomes effective when you sit close to the light box for anything up to an hour at a time.

These specially designed light boxes can either be used as a desk lamp or can be mounted on the wall. The lamps use special bulbs that emit natural full spectrum daylight, and use a very high Lux, which is the measurement of light. This means the bulbs are very bright, much brighter than a normal bulb, and are designed to simulate the brightness off the sun, that is often missing, during the darker nights of winter.

It is thought the light may improve SAD by encouraging your brain to reduce the production of melatonin (a hormone that makes you sleepy) and increase the production of serotonin (a hormone that affects your mood).

Counselling and talking therapies

Counselling is a talking therapy and involves sitting down and talking with someone trained to listen to your issues and concerns.

The aim of this type of psychotherapy is to create an environment where you can discuss and explore your feelings, in relation to yourself and others, and look at past experiences with the aim to highlight whether anything from your past is effecting how you interact in your life today.

Hypnotherapy allows the subconscious mind to process the emotional content of your life and with a qualified practitioner can successfully aid the emotional healing and issues that are the underlying causes of stress on the body and mind. It is also an extremely relaxing state and can help balance the chemical processes that can affect depression.

Other useful things you can try

  • Try to get as much natural sunlight as possible. Maybe go for a walk or spend some time outside.
  • Ensure that your work environment is as bright as possible, with fresh air.
  • Ensure that you are getting plenty of Sleep.
  • Sit as close to the window while indoors.
  • Try to get regular exercise and if possible outdoors in the natural daylight.
  • Where possible eat a healthy and balanced diet.
  • Take a trip somewhere.
  • Do things that make you happy or change your mood, such as listening to music or try some Art therapy.
  • It can also be helpful to talk to your family and friends about SAD, so they understand how your mood changes during the winter. This can help them to support you more effectively.
  • Where possible, avoid stressful situations.

How Hypnotherapy can help beat the Brexit Blues

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For many people in the UK ‘Brexit’ is proving to be an extremely stressful process. It has caused many households to be at odds with each other, forcing families to sit on opposing sides of the Brexit argument. For some this added stress can prove too much and can start to affect the health of those struggling with the concerns surrounding the uncertainty that Brexit is causing.

Why do issues like Brexit affect our overall health?

First let’s explore why an issue like Brexit can go on to cause mental health issues. As a Solution Focused Hypnotherapist, we look at the causes of anxiety. Anxiety is triggered by thinking about issues surrounding our lives in a negative way, so we create anxiety by negatively forecasting the future. The problem with issues such as Brexit, is no-one really knows what will happen if the UK finally leaves the EU. The media provides the negative forecasting for us, and many of us get caught up in the worrying implications presented to us, such as impact on Jobs, income, medical supplies etc. The reason this is important is that these worries or anxieties build up, on top of our everyday issues.

In my practice I say that the stresses of the day go into our own personal stress bucket. The analogy of the stress bucket is important, because as human beings we do have a method for emptying our stress bucket daily, and this is known as REM sleep (Rapid Eye Movement). On average we need around 1.6 to 2 hours of good REM sleep a night. REM is the part of our sleep pattern that processes and discharges emotional stressors, that we experience during the day, but haven’t let go, such as an argument or things we have seen, or tasks we haven’t completed. It can take an enormous amount of energy to process these anxieties that have built up in our stress bucket, sometimes over a long period of time. The more we worry about something, the more we pile this worry into our stress bucket, and therefore the more energy we need to use to process what’s in our bucket during our REM sleep. If the amount of energy we are using during our sleep pattern is too much, we are naturally brought out of sleep, to conserve energy, and therefore this is why we find ourselves awake at 2-3am, heavy with worry, during difficult times in our lives. This means we haven’t emptied our stress bucket from the previous night and we have more to process the following night, and so we become trapped in a vicious circle which drains our precious resources.

How can Hypnotherapy help?

Hypnotherapy can be a very useful tool to help those who are suffering with anxiety or depression, because it can break the cycle of sleep deficiency. It does this because during the trance process, it mimics REM sleep. So, during a typical hypnotherapy session we allow our bodies to go into a deep state of relaxation, and during the process it allows our minds to continue to empty our stress bucket. This means we have rested but also allowed the mind to process worry and find solutions to them. The more we do this the better able we are to get a full nights sleep, feeling rested and reinvigorated, which has a profoundly positive impact on our overall health.

As a Solution focused hypnotherapist, I also use the first half of every session to assist those seeking help to focus on solutions to issues that are bothering them. We try to encourage people to re-think issues in a more positive way using the inner resources we all possess. This has the impact of diffusing and naturally emptying many of the stresses that have been, often un-knowingly, piling into their stress bucket. The more positively you think, the less worries that end up accumulating. This consequently means you use less energy while you sleep, and you can go on to achieve the good night’s sleep your body needs. I call trance a mini break for the mind. It provides time away from the troubles and negativity that can affect our busy lives.

The Subconscious Mind and Habits

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What is your subconscious mind and how it can hold you back?

So, what exactly is our subconscious mind. Well this is the part of our brain that operates under the radar of our conscious awareness. Most of us are aware that we have habits that operate in our life, some useful, some not so useful. These habits can function without our awareness. An example might be the skill of riding a bicycle. When we first start to learn to ride a bike we need to concentrate fully on the task at hand, which allows us to learn and master the skill. Once we became competent enough to balance, pedal and steer together, eventually we find ourselves cycling along, sometimes even able to chat with friends as we do so, without being consciously aware of each of these skills being used, unless we focus on them with purpose. This is because the muscle memory and habits have been repeatedly embedded into our subconscious, so that we no longer need to concentrate so heavily on the multiskilled task being performed.

It is estimated that we use our subconscious mind to operate up to 95% of all tasks we complete in a day. This is a vast amount of decision control we allocate to a level of thought beyond that of our conscious awareness. This is ok for many basic tasks, and in-fact we should be extremely grateful that our brains are capable of such incredible feats. How-ever it is important to consider that the patterns we have established from our childhood, for which we are no-longer consciously aware, control our eating habits, and our social interactions. If these habits are not behaviours that serve in our own best interests, then we can be sabotaging ourselves without even knowing it.

You might be sitting watching the tv for example, and without realising it you are biting your fingernails. Another example is the smoker that might find themselves lighting up a cigarette after a meal and hadn’t realised they have done so, so embedded is the habit in their life. Another classic habit that can cause distress due to unwanted weight gain is comfort eating, whereby an individual often reaches for their favourite high calorie treat that they use as a crutch to comfort them when feeling stressed or upset. These subconscious patterns can form to help us in our daily lives, but they can also cause us frustration misery over time.

So how can we talk to our subconscious mind?

We must align our conscious thoughts with our subconscious thoughts, but before we do that, we must first decide on a conscious level what we want our subconscious thoughts to be. Once we know the behaviour that we want to change we can then look to focus on the behaviours and lifestyle we do want to see. In this way we now need to appeal to our subconscious and adapt our behavioural patterns.

 One of the most effective ways in which we can do this is through Hypnosis.  The use of Hypnotherapy techniques has been used for thousands of years, going as far back as ancient Egypt. Hypnosis creates a trance like state that is perfectly ordinary. In fact, we go into trance many times a day, and is most like the experience of daydreaming. It relaxes the body and mind, allowing the conscious & subconscious minds to be in state that facilitates and allows communication between the two. Once the subconscious mind has been reached and the conscious mind is in agreement you can adapt unwanted behavioural patterns and free yourself, allowing you to lead the life that best serves you and to be free of limiting thoughts that previously held you back.

Common Hypnotherapy Myths Debunked – Top Five

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Hypnosis Myth One – Not everyone can be hypnotised.

This is one of the biggest myths levelled at hypnosis. This is in fact not true. Everyone goes into trance often many times a day, when they are reading, watching TV or simply deeply engaged in an activity.

The Key here is that Hypnosis requires  a level of cooperation between the individual to be hypnotised and the hypnotherapist.  A good hypnotherapist will ask appropriate questions to find out about the person they are looking to treat, to assess how they can best be helped by the process. The information and rapport developed between therapist and the client builds the trust needed for someone to go into trance successfully. If this is not established then a resistance can develop and someone can quite easily refuse to go into trance. Ultimately all hypnosis is self hypnosis, so if a client is ready to make a change in their life then there is a much greater chance that a change can be made.

Hypnosis Myth Two – You Are MADE To Go Into Trance By Someone Else

Again this is untrue. All hypnosis is self hypnosis, and it is not possible for someone to go into hypnosis and do something that they don’t want to do.

We all hypnotise ourselves everyday by convincing ourselves of things that, in reality, might not be true. An example of this would be to imagine a trip to the dentist, where a needle might be used. We imagine the pain to be terrible, far worse than the reality,  and the outcome is that it hurts in a terrible way because we have self hypnotised ourselves into believing this is true.

Hypnosis is a partnership based on trust, and a good hypnotherapist guides you into a state where your subconscious is better able to listen to the changes you want. Think of it as more of a partnership between you and your hypnotherapist.

In my sessions I will always ask my clients how committed they are to see change happening. If on a scale of 1 to 10, the want is high I will agree to work with the client, if not I wouldn’t want a client to waste their time effort and money. For example if someone doesn’t really want to give up smoking, it doesn’t matter how much hypnotherapy they have, the suggestions under hypnosis simply wont work in the long run. Hypnotherapy, when used well, works to assist and strengthen an individuals willingness to see change. If a desired change is what you want, it’s a powerful tool to aid the mind to bring it about.

Hypnosis Myth Three – You are not in control when you go into Trance

A fear that some people have regarding hypnosis, is that they will lose control and someone else will have control of their mind. This is often the image that is presented by stage hypnotherapists. This can cause people to be afraid of the natural process and not ask for the help they really need.

In reality you remain in control at all times,  and can come out of hypnosis at anytime you choose.

Many individuals who consider themselves to be ‘control freaks’ often make the best hypnotic subjects because they are often very self-aware and can give more detail into their problem which the hypnotherapist can use for maximum effect. That greater level of concentration can be an asset to them when they want to bring about the change they are looking for.

Hypnosis Myth Four – Hypnosis can be bad for your health

Again this couldn’t be further from the truth! It is quite the opposite. I would suggest that all medical practitioners would agree on the health benefits of deep relaxation. One of the great benefits of Hypnotherapy is that it brings about a deep relaxation. By allowing our mind to enter a deep relaxing state we can bring about a homeostatic balance – a balance within the system, of mind, body and soul bringing a calm to ourselves both emotionally and physically. We in the west have a medical system where we are told the importance and need to relax, but often not the ways in which to best achieve it.  Hypnosis can never be bad for your health, in fact we go into trance to some degree when we exercise, read a book, or watch television or simply day dream. Hypnosis is a naturally occurring state, so if you want to feel a balance within yourself, it is the best state to be in. Hypnotherapy is a great way to guarantee that deep mental and physical relaxation, we all need, to recover, centre and balance ourselves.


Hypnosis Myth Five – All Hypnosis Is The Same

There is a huge variety in the different styles and techniques that come under the banner of hypnosis. You could see two different hypnotherapists for the same issue and they may take completely different approaches to your issue.

The two main approaches when using hypnosis are ‘authoritarian’ and ‘permissive’. Authoritarian techniques are direct and instructive and often not that great for most people as the direct nature of the suggestions can Jar the mind, making them resistant to the change they want. It can feel as if you are being shouted at and being told what to do. This can lead to clients who rebel against what they are being told to do, even if it is what they said they wanted to do!

Permissive hypnosis is more subtle and tends to work better with most people in most circumstances (in my experience!). This style of hypnosis tends to look for agreement with the client so they feel they are in control and don’t feel that they are being threatened or ordered by the suggestion, but simply part of the process of change that they have sought out for themselves. This is the style of hypnosis I use with clients and always seek to agree the solutions for which they want to adopt going forward in their lives.